All moms love their kids. But Greek moms have a special way of spoiling them to show it, and when it comes to their sons... Forget about it! Greek women have always known that it's difficult for moms to let go of their little boys (even when they're past 30), but now there's research to back up this notion.
According to a study published today on in.gr, one in four Greek men are so attached to their mothers that they rarely realize how harmful this attachment can be to their relationships with women. In fact one in four Greek men consider their mother's opinion for every important decision they have to make, and many of them inform their mothers of every detail in their daily lives.
That doesn't sound that bad, until you actually start dating one of these men. OK, maybe not immediately after dating them, but definitely if you marry them. The mother-in-law is there to supervise you as her new daughter-in-law. She has to make sure that her son is eating well, that he's eating the food he likes the way his mommy cooks it, that the house is cleaned on a regular basis and so on.
And if it's not about the daily chores and housekeeping, they will interfere with your upbringing of your children - 24% of the women in this study found this a big problem.
Often times such "orders" are not expressed directly towards the daughter-in-law. They are subtly inserted in a harmless conversation, as the mother-in-law "hints" at the mistakes that her son's wife is making.
According to this study, 23% of couples involved, divorced because of the husband's mom. The percentage of break-ups due to the man's mother getting involved, reaches 80% for unmarried couples.
The worst part, is that most women who experience such behavior from their mother-in-laws, actually end up treating their daughter-in-laws the same way they were treated!
GREEK MAMAS: Please stop babying your boys! They cannot stay with you forever - that's what your husband is there for. Be a diplomat: treat your daughter-in-law with respect and you will have the couple's love and devotion.
GREEK MEN: Stop the kiss-and-tell with your mom! Allowing her to interfere from day one, doesn't show that you love her. It shows that you don't respect your wife and that you can't stand up to your mom. Grow up!
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great picture and it shows true relation of mother and son thanks for shairing
ΑπάντησηΔιαγραφήThanks! I thought so too. So dependent in many cases!
ΑπάντησηΔιαγραφήTruth! I got the hell out of their weird, unhealthy, dysfunctional, oedipal relationship and left them to it.
ΑπάντησηΔιαγραφήI married a Greek guy some years ago, it was truly the worst experience ever in my life. She was so obsessive, controlling, interfering, DRAMATIC and very manipulative with her Son. There were millions times that she called her son saying “I am feeling I am dying in my bed and you are not next to me”(we were not living in Greece that time”. There were so many times she told me” I am not feeling well and I feel like committing a suicude” when things didn’t go her way.
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